So what do you do when you are struggling with relationships or in business? Do you join the CGM club? Complain, Groan & Moan Club
Yep, we’ve all been there. Dale Carnegie’s number one human relation principle is “Don’t Criticize, Condemn or Complain.” What he really meant when he identified that principle many moons ago, was don’t criticize, condemn or complain to yourself.
It’s amazing what can happen when we shift our thinking from swirling in sadness to stepping towards success. I’ve been through a huge obstacle over the last few months and I made a decision to transition from sadness to success, want to join me?
So here’s the deal. There are a few things we are in charge of in this life, here’s a brief inventory:
1-Attitude
2- Daily Activity
3-Prayer Life
4-Exercise/Nutrition
5-Our Focus
6-Learning Opportunities
7-People we hang around
8-Emails/Texts/Instant Message/Facebook Posts we respond to…unless it’s mandatory from your company that you respond…I get that with emails.
9-Setting Boundaries
10-Asking for What You Need
In the deepest darkest moments, when I didn’t think moving toward success was the next step, I would reflect on my kids and the clients I’ve helped over the years and the family that has stayed by my side through it all. If you want to know the big obstacle, you have to call me, please don’t email me, because daily I’m tempted to hit all – delete, thinking to myself, “Well, if this is REALLY important it will come back around” or hire me to speak at your next company meeting because that book about my obstacle won’t be out until 2018…
I’ve got a book finished that was put on the back burner because of my sadness, but now I’m transitioning to success.
Life is full of roller coasters and be aware how they can trigger tough emotions from your past, present and may impact your future. As leaders, be aware that people in your organization may be facing significant obstacles or challenges. Some people will have the courage to share, some will have the courage to get help, some will have the courage to be a catalyst for change. Some will not.
What are some top 10 experiences that can cause you to hit the pause button or hit the press forward button? Depression, grief from death, family illness, personal illness, job loss or job transition, men-oh-pause (yes, I just wrote that!), excessive stress/worry, friend or coworker betrayal, injury, personal tragedy, addiction…well, I was never good at math – that’s more than 10. You get the picture.
People are dealing with big stuff every day.
A principle I follow when people act ugly or I let them tick me off is this: On the first offense, give people grace; the second, make a mental note; the third? Time for a sit down to talk about the experience or the perception.
Do you stay in sadness or frustration, or do you move toward resolution and success?
